Making a baby is that kind of tectonic moment; it sets the course, irreversibly, and it behoves us all to be cunning as serpents and harmless as doves about the business of creating new human life. Is it a good idea for woman to adopt a baby? or whatever stuff. I guess lots of woman want to consider it so badly. because they tend to ask what is the issue with a woman want to have baby instead of searching for something good to do. Some might be concerned if the reason is fertility issues when they are 40, to see if they are able to conceive or not. Or whether it could be possible to maintain a quality life as a parent as well. I will address the pros and cons of having a baby when you are 40 years old and can then decide if it is something you want to try.
Pros of Having a Baby at 40
Financial security: by 40 you’ll most likely have a secure job, making it the best time to think about having a child: you’ll be financially secure enough to give your child the best you can and some of the pressure will hopefully have abated.
Emotional maturity: ‘You can’t choose your parents, but you can choose your friends – and sometimes even old ones.’ In many cases, age can bring emotional maturity and life experience. Older parents, for example, are typically more emotionally stable and equipped to take on the role of raising a child, since the paths they are carrying down the hill with them during the roughest time of the white-knuckle descent, are ones stained with wisdom, patience and a deeper clarity about what exact obligations in front of them need to be focused on.
Long-Term Relationships: Holding off parenthood for couples could make longer relationships more viable, since parents will stick together for their child’s sake.
Career Flexibility: By the end of their 40s, most people have developed at least some ability to flexibly schedule their workday, at least some ability to telecommute, and at least some ability to combine family life and employment goals. After going through the rigorous demands of a career, most parents can then achieve some work-life balance, one in which they can spend at least some real time with their children, without having to give up their professional lives entirely.
Logistical support: Another reason why having a baby might be easier at 40 is that the support network is already in place. You will likely have more friends and communities around you by this age – friends you might have known for decades, ready to help you with practical advice and real-life stories; letting you borrow baby and child things, swooping in to take your eldest off your hands from time to time, and simply being there to help you navigate parenthood the next time round. The advice and input of friends who already have children can help parents aged 40 get through the first few formative years of parenthood.
A Flexible Lifestyle: Although parenting is hardly a side occupation, and having babies will change your life no matter when it arrives in your life, being a parent later, especially a lot later – certainly if you are 40-plus – allows for some slack, perhaps more than when you are 30 and still have a world of dreaming or doing you want to do. Professionally, a 40ish parent might have a decade of work or travel chops or career climbing experience already in the bank, and being a parent and bonding with your kids might not be so much about your day-to-day calendar; it is not ‘You can’t go to Africa this year, that is about the family’ and ‘this is about being home for my kids’. Maybe part of the slack of being able to splay out life stages across the lifespan is what allows you to be a better parent.
Cons of Having a Baby at 40
Declining fertility: A common area of concern that a woman, thinking about starting a family at 40, will readily mention is the issue of declining fertility. The answer: Women tend to have diminishing egg supply and the ovarian reserve declines with advancing age. Not only does it become more difficult to get pregnant and the likelihood of miscarriage increases, but they are also more likely to have chromosomal abnormalities such as down syndrome.
More Health Threats To Mother And Foetus: Women over 40 years old are more likely to experience health complications during pregnancy, including gestational diabetes, high blood pressure and a number of other pregnancy issues. Moreover, their babies have a higher chance of being born with a genetic disorder or developmental disorder.
Level of energy: parenting takes a 24-7 use of one’s energy, and sheer stamina. Young adults might have the energy/stamina older adults don’t, meeting the demands of childcare.Images of parents 50 years ago – or today – might be groaning under the amount of time they will have to spend with a child sleeping, who needs more care, attention, and who deprives the parents of sleep for a longer period of time.
Long-term health issues: Older parents might worry about reaching the milestones of graduations, weddings – and even grandchildren – at a later age. They’ll also probably worry about their own health and capacity to parent teenagers.
Conclusion
For them, it’s a wonderful source of satisfaction, of meaning and purpose in life. Read the testimonials, and you’ll read satisfaction with fertility, as well as with ambitious plans to have a late-in-life child, and with empowerment and reward in feeling ‘blessed’ for this accomplishment. ‘I was old enough by then in my life that I’d checked off all the other things on my bucket list and to have someone new to fill my life with wonder and love and responsibility was the perfect summation of my life thus far. Parents towards the end of life can also enjoy the precious golden glow of new parenthood and be emotionally ready to experience the thrill as well as the emotional and material work of having and rearing a child.
Because older parents have been exposed to and endured life’s challenges and vicissitudes, they might be equipped with more wisdom to be supportive parents – ones who adjust their behaviours to the needs of their children along with their development. Older parents can become great role models to their children by keeping positive and healthy attitudes when they experience stress and by possessing strengths such as being flexible, adaptable and persistently hopeful. Older parents may have a stronger value of education and become role models for learning and growing for a lifetime, and their positive attitudes may be reinforced, causing their children to form a good impression and making them more likely to study according to their interests and realising their goals.
At the end, having a baby at 40 is the decision that concerns just you, it’s a general thing. Because there are too many factor that have an effect on your decision. For example, what do you think of the situation you are in, the health issues i can speak about here, even the things that interests you we can speak about here. If you seen the things that I have said here, I hope and I think also that it will help a lot and make you understand that there are so many things that comes with having a baby at 40, but they should be consider at the same time with the difficulatilies and the risks that comes with it, because everything that you do has it’s good and bad sides, and if you want to do what is right and nice for your family, then you have to make a consideration even with the good and bad times.